Your Rudder:

     3 When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. 4 Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. 5 Likewise, the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6 The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.
                                        
  James  3: 3-6 (Amplified Bible)

     Soldier, much division in the Body of Christ is caused by seemingly casual comments.  There must be great caution when saying anything about a Brother or Sister to a third party.

     The enemy uses everything possible to create division. And, there is no such thing as a small division.   They are only visible or invisible.

     There are small comments that concern things such as housekeeping, dress, weight,  spending, odor, and other matters.   Those who make such comments are usually the ones who are eager to share interesting personal information about another.

     One of the most lethal offenses is the out-of-context quote  Or even unwisely accurately quoting for the purpose of the listener being appalled.   Some do this habitually to gain attention.

     How careful we must be. These comments throw the door open for the enemy to toy with us, and the field is set afire.   

     If the tongue were guarded in the same manner as money, most would sin less.

     Oh, Soldier, pray for the Indwelling Holy Spirit to train you in this area.  Be in much prayer about it.    When we are on the other side, we will see the terrible chasms that were created by loose tongues.

     Teach your children to hear themselves.  Teach them to put up an open palm and remove themselves from such conversations.

     Take this to the Lord.  Aloud.