For so many, not giving people what they deserve is beyond comprehension.
How easy is it to sling back a comment when something unkind or unfair has been said. And usually that retort is more cutting than the first, because the offender "deserves" it.
Homes are so full of this, that for many it is the norm.
Oh, Soldier! Not so for you. There is no formula, but when only the Lord sees the heart, prayerful discernment is needed before addressing someone else's sin or at best, lack of wisdom.
When engaged in little gutter fights, there is no sight or hearing. Actually, sometimes things that come at us in hurled unkindnesses can be God's discipline. That is certainly not always the case, but we must not be hasty to respond.
Isn't it about seeking Wisdom?
Isn't it about learning to love?
Isn't it about being a Living Sacrifice?
Quite often, when something actually has to be said, it isn't in direct response to the offending comment, but rather it results from prayer and obedience. The Soldier of The Cross has no investment in the result. The result is the Lord's.
Tell Him today.