Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it and indulge it will eat its fruit and bear the consequences of their words.
(Proverbs 18:21, Amplified Bible)
Your Words reflect your thought life. You wield power all the time, often without knowing it.
You are not allowed to live and speak as you did before the Indwelling Holy Spirit came to reside in your spirit.
Your words curse or bless.
Your words open doors or close them.
Your words heal or wound.
And your words create or destroy.
Soldier of The Cross, this is not about tiptoeing through conversations or being paranoid. It is about changing- being transformed. It is about being obedient and resisting the ever so strong urge to say the thing that is deserved or that is needed to combat someone else's verbal assault.
What does the book of Proverbs have to say about words?
Wasn't the universe spoken into being? And isn't it sustained by the Word? (Hebrews 1:3)
This has to be a matter of much prayer and no one ever arrives.
Truth must be spoken aloud and often.
The One whom we adore and to whom we belong is called The Word.
". . .His name is called The Word of God."
This is one of the reasons it is so important to pray aloud when possible. We choose words according to The Word and we say it and hear it at the same time. And, so often, He speaks to us in the very choice of those words as we pray.
The chains of habit are dissolved when prayer addresses this matter.
When Truth is spoken, words and actions match.
Soldier, take this to Him and deal with Him aloud on this matter.
Then, look up and move on.