Soldier of The Cross, Believers ought to know how to talk.
If His name is The Word, and if all of existence was spoken into being:
"The Son is the radiance and only expression of the glory of our awesome God reflecting God’s Shekinah glory, the Light-being, the brilliant light of the divine], and the exact representation and perfect imprint of His Father’s essence, upholding and maintaining and propelling all things the entire physical and spiritual universe by His powerful Word carrying the universe along to its predetermined goal. When He Himself and no other had by offering Himself on the cross as a sacrifice for sin accomplished purification from sins and established our freedom from guilt, He sat down revealing His completed work at the right hand of the Majesty on high revealing His Divine authority,
Hebrews 1:3 (Amplified Bible)
No more talking about what you hate.
No more endless would-licking aloud.
No more over and over telling about how you were abused.
No more negativity.
We all need to confide in someone at some point. Make sure you are reporting and not attempting to influence the listener to hold your point of view against an offender.
The bottom line is the power of His Word in your life and that manifestation through your words. This is not about perfection; it is about response to the Indwelling Holy Spirit.
Soldier, do not second guess yourself. You are equipped by the Word of God.
Take this to Him aloud.