A Soldier of The Cross does not complain, whine or waste time licking his wounds.
He is interested in serving the Lord, and that means that he will attend to others at his own expense.
There is a significant difference between serving others, and doing everything to win another in order to gain approval and control. Similarly, the same difference exists between kindness and niceness.
The Servant of The Living God has determined to leave Silken Self behind and follow the One who left Glory to rescue us.
If you are not actively doing for others, there is a void in your life. If you are attending to the needy, the most extreme circumstances are diffused because of obedience.
What is His nature? After all, He is Love.
The greatest miracle in the human life is knowing God. The fruit of knowing Him is being like Him.
There is nothing else.