Life in Christ means looking away from all that would distract.
Soldier? What distracts you? Is it a need for security? Is it a need for human love? Is it a need for a good reputation? Do you need to know all your children are perfect?
What is the issue? What does God's Word say? Equally important, what do you say in response?
The issue is, are you a Soldier of The Cross? Have you told Him He can do anything with your life? Do you mean it? Can He be trusted? Is His Word true?
Soldier, whatever stands before you, agree with God.
Look up and move on!