Soldier of The Cross, there can be no unconditional love until there is a decision to follow Jesus.
As He has said, there can be no following of Him until there is a daily taking up of The Cross. What does this mean?
Romans 12 - The decisive abandon of the things that do not matter eternally, and the willingness to allow the Lord to minister through the one who is a Living Sacrifice.
Life in Christ is thrilling. As the writer to the Hebrews says, drop the things that are distracting and set your sights on the things that are above.
Set your face like flint. Pray aloud. Know The Word.
Serve the King. Follow Jesus!