Love gives the thing needed, not necessarily the thing wanted.
God has certainly done that for us. The flesh craves control but He has asked for yieldedness.
The flesh loves to find fault with others, but we are asked to be ministers of Grace.
The flesh longs for comfort and security, yet we are asked to attend to the needs of others first.
He gave His life when all we wanted was to be left alone.
The Indwelling Holy Spirit lives in you. Allow Him to do what is needed in the lives of others.