Let’s tackle this head on:
Many teach that the gifts are not for today.
I know the arguments, but I can’t find that anywhere in my bible. Nor do I find any verse that instructs every Christian to exercise the same gift. The gifts are given as the Lord wills.
The problem lies with both polarized positions. Those who so desperately want the experience can often fall into deception. With some it is hard to fellowship at all, because there is a constant hunt for the feeling and there is no calm spirit. With those folks it is often hard to pray because they have little experience praying in their own language and less experience listening.
The opposite extreme draws a line and refuses anything that is not familiar and safe. Only the proper and predictable will do, and so the Lord is often not free to move.
What is the balance? The pursuit of God. Agreeing with Him and letting him know He can do absolutely anything. The gifts must not be a project or a goal. To know the Lord must be the goal. To serve Him. To reach the lost. To build up the Brethren.
Soldier of The Cross, look to reveal Jesus in His way. Then the Holy Spirit is never quenched.