The Soldier of The Cross may not lash back.
This is particularly difficult when there is a rebellious child still in the home, because it is not possible to avoid anger at some level.
So, when a Christian parent levels the boom and is angry at the same time, there is overwhelming guilt, and it feels as though you were out of control because you were so angry.
The bottom line is, if you are raising your children on your knees, you will have wisdom. It doesn't' mean you will sail a smooth sea through the matter. There can be and probably will be storms..
It doesn't mean you will feel calm. It just means you can trust Him for Light on the matter.
It is entirely possible to make a wise decision and feel like you blew it.
Give it to Him.
The child is not yours. The child is His. If you ask Him, He will lead you. It doesn't mean you will feel like a sage or feel like you are in control.
It is about the Word of God and His leading.
Soldier, make sure you are dealing with this matter in prayer and aloud. It is a tremendous protection.
I am about to turn sixty-four. I have worked with teenagers for forty-seven years. On a human level, that makes me an expert. I know a lot of stuff and I do well with teens. I have them one on one in private lessons, and there are over two hundred adults who still call me "Mama". But the dynamic is competely different when they are your own.
When it comes to any problem or conflict, all ground must be softened by prayer.
This will protect you from the typical terrible advice about teens.
Soldier of The Cross, there is no such thing as a stereotype.
We are His. We are led. We are dependent, and that is the way it should be.
Tell Him. Aloud.
Today.