Start with the Word of God.
When you pray about the matter, the circumstances are absolutely not the issue. The issue is, Who are you talking to?
If you are a Soldier of The Cross, that means that you are committed to the death of the flesh. It means you are bent on following Him, no matter where He goes. It means that you will pray for Him to have His way, rather than praying for the result you think would be the best thing.
This doesn't mean you can't pray for specifics, it only means that when you stand before Him, you acknowledge that He alone knows what needs to happen.
It's not always easy. Is your home under foreclosure? Of course you will ask Him for a rescue. The bottom line? Will you trust Him?
Are you ill? Husband or child ill? We would all pray desperately, and we should. The bottom line is, He knows and He is in control.
The church is falling apart? Don't catch the falling ark - take it to Him.
When I interview old missionaries who have faithfully served the Lord, they all report that they asked Him for what they thought was needed, but always knew He could b e trusted for the eternal solution, not the temporal solution.
Soldier, stand before Him, make your request and then say the thing that reflects your understanding of Him according to His Word.
Tell Him aloud. It's very important to tell Him aloud.
Do it today.