What does the offender deserve?
You don't have be his best friend or even reach out to him. But if we all got what we deserved, no one would be saved.
Soldier of The Cross, you must not and may not punish an offender by getting even. This issue can sneak up in may ways. One of the most common is the tendency of women to withdraw and expect the man to grovel in order to restore a liveable atmosphere.
It is not His way.
The Indwelling Holy Spirit is gracious and empowers the Believer to behave in the manner commanded by Heaven. It is not about evening the score or teaching a lesson. It is about being a Living Sacrifice.
According to the Word of God, your behavior and your words and your attitude are all to reflect Him. Not the other guy.
This is maturity. This is submission. This is obedience. This is protection against the ploys of the enemy that come through those who attack us.
Soldier, buck up.
Remember, all of the unseen powers in existence are watching you and listening to your words, or your silence.
Tell Him in prayer, and aloud.