Because we are born into another dimension and have the Indwelling Holy Spirit, we have the instruction and the Power to pre-determine a number of things.
There will always be something that blindsides you. If you are wholly determined to serve the Lord and are willing to let Him completely have His way with your life, you will find that sometimes the folks you trusted the most or helped the most, will hurt you the most. It's always painful and we mustn't tiptoe around expecting to be betrayed. But if you understand this and have given it to the Lord before anything happens, it is possible to carry on without it affecting your stride.
We must pre-determine that when we are misunderstood or gossiped about, we are not going to have a flesh-flash over it, but it is to be immediately given to the Lord. If He so leads, perhaps there can be restoration. But it has to be His leading.
So many have not taken hold of the precious Light in God's Word about how to live.
Years ago, one of the families in our church moved into a beautiful new home. A great harp and new piano also. Shortly after the move, all four of them came to spend the night in the guest house. Early the next morning, authorities where they had moved were calling on the phone to see if they were alive. A fire that started in the new garage completely burned down the new house, including the harp and new piano. The parents and the two children were fine. When they moved into the new home, they dedicated it to the Lord and gave it up to Him. They lost absolutely everything, but there was no typical devastation. They had pre-determined their reaction by giving it up to the Lord before they moved in.
Soldier, this principle applies to areas of child-rearing, illness, financial matters and so much more.
We were created to live above situations, even while they are happening. This life will never be without completely unexpected trials.
It is about The Cross. The death of the flesh.
Bring it to Him today. Aloud.