The Unlovely:

     The way we treat people is the most obvious sign of being a real Christian.

     But what about loving our enemies?   How does that actually happen?

     It certainly is not about a feeling- and that's a good thing because we now know we are not to live according to our feelings.

     “But I say to you who hear Me and pay attention to My words, Love that is, unselfishly seek the best or higher good for your enemies, make it a practice to do good to those who hate you,  bless and show kindness to those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
                           Luke 6: 27, 28   (Amplified Bible)

     Soldier, this is hard, especially when you decide to begin obeying this verse, The issue of course is your enemies do not deserve your love or attention.  Of course, we do not deserve anything we have.  And, but for the Grace of God, we would be just like those who  have done us ill.

     You are either going to prayerfully obey this, or you are going to miss out on powerful healing and a tsunami blessing.

     To begin, pray for the offender.  When we pray for them to be blessed, it seems to me that the first thing that will happen is for them to be able to see and hear Truth.  It might mean the realization of the deep need for the Lord's healing, forgiveness, or more.

     And if the Holy Spirit prods you further, do something, possibly anonymously for that person.  This is not about your getting mushy with anyone, it is about obedience.  It is for your healing, forgiveness and freedom.

     You are a Soldier of The Cross.  That means no baggage.  Lighten the load and obey.

     Be sure to take it to Him in prayer first.  Aloud.
     Then, go for it!