You have a choice.
You can control your mouth and you can control your thoughts. That is what God says in His Word. Further, He commands it.
Soldier of The Cross, anger is a cancer in the life of any Christian. The issues must be left with the Lord in prayer. It must be aloud. It must be specific. I do not believe that anyone has ever been able to confront the Maker aloud and stand on the opposite side of The Line.
We have to consider that the Bible addresses anger specifically. No follower of the Lord should be harboring resentment, offense or irritation. It is assumed that even the casual reader of the Bible would agree that the text forbids a temper tantrum.
Why do we have the saying "blinding rage?" Because the one who is so angry is not able to see the situation as it is.
Soldier, do not indulge yourself. Go to The Word. Deal with the matter in prayer. Aloud.
Do not be stubborn.
Do not be defensive.
Do be obedient.