We have choice.
Even when things happen that are completely out of our control, we have the ability to choose a right attitude. We have this freedom and power because of the Indwelling Holy Spirit.
There can be no wise choice or right attitude without God's Word. Throughout much of this life, feelings and wisdom are mutually exclusive. We are not about improving. We are about loving and obeying the Lord. That means desperate need, frustration, anger, fear, and even swells of inappropriate romantic feeling can be intense to the extent that there are physical effects.
Yet, God's Word is more real than the way that you feel.
Soldier of The Cross, you must love this truth. While Believers can and should experience healed emotions, it is not possible to live without being ambushed by strong feelings that do not line up with God's Word. There is choice. It is possible to fell terrible, yet agree with God and obey Him. It is possible to feel crippled by resentment, dread or depression, and still make the right choice.
Stand on God's Word. Present this to Him in prayer.
Yes, we need each other. Yes, we need healthy preaching, delivered in the power of the Holy Spirit. We don't need fireworks, we need reality.
Many Christians are living by emotions and can't understand why they experience so much conflict.
Faith is based on who God is. Obedience means making choices based on what He has said. All who live by sight are blind. It is the blind whose decisions and self-protection stem from feeling. Those who obey God's Word are those who walk in The Light.
Stand before the Living Word and cling to the Written Word.