The Soldier of the Cross is not allowed to be offended.
It is not about being thick-skinned. It is about agreeing with God, and allowing Him to do a deep work that brings about His own likeness.
Believes are offended when there is some bruise, scar or pride issue, all of which must be taken to Him in prayer. The offended one does not realize that in reality he is being held by his own reaction. He is looking at the offender and blaming that person for his own discomfort.
When the door is opened to the Lord and He is allowed to come in and sup with the Christian, there is a healing that diminishes the unhealthy place. At the same time there is Light to see what is really happening.
We are not squishy or numb, but we are supernaturally enabled to enjoy Him, serve and love without missing a beat.
Why should I waste time fuming about something someone has said or done? What about "Father forgive them, for they know not what they do" ?
There is no time for wound-licking, and no Bible verse to back it up.
Take the matter to the Lord and agree with Him.
Aloud.